How To Start Planning For Your Malay Wedding

So you have said YES or maybe your guy is not as romantic and indirectly proposed to you by asking to apply for a BTO together. Now is the time to start planning for your Malay wedding! But where do you start? How early should you start booking venues, make-up artists, etc? We will have it covered in this article.

  1. Before anything else make sure that both parents from each side is agreeable to the marriage! Kita nak restu beb! For those who are engaged both parties must have decided on the date of when the marriage would be held. It is important to FIRST have a timeline to work with. Once date have been decided move on to the next step.
  2. Decide whether your majlis will be held separately or will it be a combine wedding. My take on this is if both sides have huge family members then do it separately. Kalau you ada 1000 orang nak jemput and your partner pun ada 1,000 orang, da nak kena book National Stadium! Ok kidding, on a serious note again this is best to speak to your parents as well. I know, I know this is very leceh and I know this is YOUR wedding and not theirs but … trust me they are equally as excited as you in preparing for your wedding. As an anak you are their pride and joy and most of the time they want to invite ramai orang because they are proud of you. Anak aku da kahwin is one tick off their life goals.
  3. So now based on your number of guests we can start start doing our research by finding out on average how much it cost to hold your wedding. This is where you get inputs from friends, family members, at the Expo, your best friend Mr Google etc. This will give you a general idea how much would be your expenses. Some people start doing this 2 years before their marriage.
  4. Next you need to be systematic and plan your finances. You can download our FREE wedding budget planner below. Have a budget in mind and stick to it like glue! When writing down your budget in the planner try to overestimate the budget to 15-20% just in case, as you don’t want to be caught off guard with any additional payment. In this budget planner there will be a list of checklist you need to cover such as venue rental, duit hantaran, henna, bridal andaman etc. You can put the estimated cost at each section. Ok just download the free planner and you get what I mean.
  5. What to book first? Venue? Catering? Make up artists? Based on my interview with married couples, venue is the FIRST thing they booked. Which I think makes sense as no venue how to hold majlis kan? Then again it really depends on a few factors. One of them is the popularity of the service provider you wish to engage. There are some catering, bridal and make-up artists who are booked 2 years in advance! If there is any service providers that you mati-mati want to have then book that first! For venue some of you might not book this first especially for those holding their majlis at the void-deck. Booking for void-deck depends on individual town councils and on average it is 5-6 months in advance.
  6. Ok ni paling IMPORTANT jangan lupa book Kadi and register for your nikah date. This can be done 150 days in advance.

Basically the timeline depends on how early you plan for your wedding. The earlier it is the less stress you will encounter. One helpful tool is to set a calendar for both you and your partner after you discuss what dates to book what wedding services.

It is never too early to plan for a wedding as this will also give you enough time to do as much research as you can. I am not asking you to be difficult but ask as much question as you can to the vendor you wish to engage. This will also be a good time to check on their customer service 😉

In upcoming posts I will share in greater details as to what to look out when buying your Malay wedding packages so that you have yourself covered. We heard horror stories of vendors running away after couples have paid their deposit so I’m going to share how you can protect yourself from such situation. Do remember to sign-up for our newsletter below to be updated.

Do comment below if you have anything to add with regard to planning for a Malay wedding so that others could benefit from it as well.

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About the Author

Johari is the Co-Founder of Art of Marriage. He is also a certified Trainer by Ministry of Social & Family Development (MSF) to conduct the pre-marriage course for Muslim couples. He has a background in coaching, counselling and is a licensed Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) Practitioner from the Institute of NLP.

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